Know what bugs me? Men saying that men are ‘;visual and physical and NOT emotional.’ I desire intimacy, not getting off. I do not expect my partner to fulfill my needs despite her own needs and desires. That is both prideful and selfish. People like Dr. Tony Rapu are a blight on what Christian intimacy should be. If there is no emotional or spiritual connection, you are doing it wrong. If my partner ‘Isn’t into it’ then can I be ‘into it’? Forcing her to do something is abusive. The idea that ‘Christ gives you strength’ in unwanted sexual activity is nauseating. If you don’t want it, your partner should fucking respect that and not make bullshit excuses as to why he or she ‘needs this’ for the relationship to work.